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A House Full of Stories

Fostering was never just something my mother did; it was who she was. Our house was never just ours; it was a revolving door of children with nowhere else to go. Some stayed for weeks, others for years. Each one carried a story heavier than their small shoulders should have ever had to bear. John was one of them. He came to us at 8 years old, a tornado of anger and trauma, lashing out at everything and everyone. He fought bedtime. He fought school. He fought love. But beneath the chaos, I saw him. I understood him. And one night, after years of fights, tears, and slow, painful healing, he finally let me in. “Do you think she’s coming back?” he had whispered in the dark, clutching the blanket like a lifeline. “No,” I had said honestly, “but I’m here.” And that was enough.

Then Paul arrived. Paul was different. He had severe special needs, a mind that never aged past toddlerhood. He found joy in small things: clapping when the birds landed outside, humming the same song over and over, watching the same cartoon until the tape inside wore thin. But Paul also needed everything. He needed patience, structure, understanding—things my mother had in endless supply. I thought I did too, until she was gone.

The Breaking Point

The first few weeks after her funeral, I convinced myself I could handle it. The exhaustion didn’t matter, the frustration didn’t matter, because this was love, right? Love meant enduring. But love should never feel like drowning. It happened on an ordinary evening. Paul had been agitated all day; his routine had been thrown off somehow, and nothing was calming him down. He screamed. He rocked back and forth, hitting his head against the wall. I tried to soothe him, but I was already running on fumes. Then he threw his dinner plate to the floor. I don’t know why that was the thing that broke me. It wasn’t the worst tantrum he’d had. It wasn’t even the first plate he’d shattered that month. But something inside me cracked. “Paul, please!” I said, my voice raw. “I don’t know what you want!” And then, the moment I will never forget: John standing in the doorway, watching me with quiet understanding. “You can’t do this alone,” he said. Four words. That’s all it took. I wanted to argue. I wanted to say, “No, I promised Mom!” But I couldn’t, because I knew he was right. That night, I sat at the kitchen table—the same one where my mother had made me promise to take care of them—and I let myself face the truth. I wasn’t failing Paul by letting him go; I was failing him by holding on when I knew I couldn’t give him what he needed.

Letting Go to Truly Love

The day Paul left, I felt like I had swallowed glass. He didn’t cry. He didn’t protest. He just climbed into the car, clutching his stuffed elephant, and looked out the window. John stood beside me, hands in his pockets, watching as the car disappeared down the street. “You okay?” he asked. I shook my head, because how do you explain the kind of grief that comes from loving someone so much and still knowing you aren’t enough?

That night, the house was too quiet. I kept expecting to hear Paul’s hums, his footsteps, his laughter. But all that was left was silence and guilt. It took weeks before I finally worked up the courage to visit Paul. I sat in my car for 10 minutes outside his new home, gripping the steering wheel so tightly my knuckles turned white. What if he hates me? What if he’s suffering? What if I made the wrong choice? But when I finally stepped inside, I saw something unexpected. Paul was happy. He had structure, caregivers who had the training and patience I didn’t. He had a place where his needs weren’t just met; they were understood. And for the first time in months, I breathed. When I left, I didn’t feel like I had abandoned him; I felt like I had finally done right by him.

The following week, I got a call from the Foster agency. “We have two little boys who need a home. Temporary for now, but would you be open to taking them in?” I hesitated, not because I didn’t want to, but because for the first time in a long time, I wasn’t acting out of obligation. I wasn’t doing this because of a promise or guilt or grief. I was doing it because I wanted to. That night, two frightened children arrived at my doorstep. They looked up at me with wary eyes, unsure, waiting. “You’re safe here,” I told them. And for the first time in a long time, I knew it was true. Because I had finally learned what my mother knew all along: love isn’t about holding on. Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing you can do is let go.