I (M19)and have a 3 month old daughter with my ex (F19). We broke up not long after she was born. I’ve been working a union construction job since then around 70 hours a week. It pays really well and has good benefits, so I took it to make sure I can support my daughter. I send money every week for whatever she needs diapers, formula, clothes, etc.
My ex isn’t working right now. She’s home with the baby full-time, which I get newborns are a lot. But she’s been getting upset with me lately because I only see our daughter on Sunday, which is my only day off. She says I should be helping more coming over after work, doing night feedings, spending more time.
I told her that’s not realistic right now. After working 12+ hour days, I’m exhausted. I’m not ignoring my kid I’m working to provide for her. I called her expectations unrealistic, and she got really mad and said I’m just trying to do the bare minimum.
I don’t feel like I am. I feel like I’m doing what I can, but maybe I’m missing something.
So, AITA for only seeing my daughter once a week because of how much I work?
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CsZsofy
After reading your comments… Please, I beg you, do not have more children. You were not ready for this child either.
catinnameonly
YTA – Financially supporting your child is super important. So is bonding with her. Even as a baby. When she older you should be caring for her on a regular basis. This is what having a child looks like. This is the contract you signed when you had sex and knocked up your GF.
ACanWontAttitude
Huy hiệu hồ sơ cho thành tích 1% người bình luận nhiều nhất 1% người bình luận nhiều nhất
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Sweet_Vanilla46
Soooo how is your ex ever supposed to be able to pay her bit and take care of herself when you pay your “share” for the baby, but don’t do your share of putting in the time? Are you paying for your ex to have stuff too? Because she’s paying her share and doing 100% of the work. You get downtime, when is hers? How will she go to work? It’s nice you’re paying your share, but is it really “your share”?