Last year, my (35M) wife (32F) gave me an ultimatum: either we opened our marriage, or we’d divorce. I begrudgingly accept to open it. She almost immediately began a relationship with our daughter’s piano teacher (23M), a FWB-type situation. For most of the time, I’ve felt miserable and depressed. Then, two months ago, I began to talk to an ex-girlfriend (34F) that Facebook suggested me to friend.
We caught up with each other (the last time we talked was 15 years ago) and decided to meet, which led to a lovely afternoon in a cafe. Soon, we began to meet weekly to hang out and chat. That eventually led to some kissing and, in a while, to sex.
Meanwhile, things haven’t been okay with my wife and her FWB. They stopped talking and he completely ghosted her after she insisted (our daughter’s hasn’t been taking piano lessons in a while now). My wife got depressed over this for quite some time.
After she got better, she began to treat me like before this whole open marriage thingy. She has been more affectionate, giving me more PDA, began to ACTUALLY have conversations with me again and to share what has been happening in her life as whole. I loved it. It felt like I’ve got the love of my live back.
Flashforward to last Saturday. I’d a date with my ex-turned-FWB. My wife knew about that and became very depressed once she saw me ready to leave. She kissed and told that she loved me. I came back home around 3 AM and found her still awake, waiting for me. She told me that she missed me while I was gone, and that she’d done some thinking, which led her to figure out that we should close our marriage again and to focus on healing our relationship.
I told her that I wasn’t interested in closing it back, but that I still wanted to married to her and to grow old together. She says that she accepts my decision, but now seems to be depressed once again. AITA?