“Perfect. This house is going to be ours.” My sister said that when she first entered the house, which I had just bought. She decided independently without asking my opinion. Even though I owned the house, my parents supported my sister that day. They even demanded that I help her because my sister was a single mother. When I refused, they called me ungrateful, selfish, and cold-hearted. When I asked them to leave, they wouldn’t agree. Out of options, I had to call 911. Follow this story to discover why I had to set boundaries with my family members.
Hello everyone, I’m **Camden**, 30 years old, living alone in a small house in the suburbs of Mountain View. Every morning when I wake up, I spend 15 minutes sipping hot coffee on my front porch, listening to the birds singing and feeling the gentle breeze. These are the peaceful moments I treasure after everything that has happened. It’s been over a year since I cut ties with my toxic family. A year without accusatory phone calls, without unreasonable demands, and without the guilt of not meeting their expectations. I never thought life could be this peaceful until I set clear boundaries and firmly protected them.
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The Uninvited Guests
Over a year ago, it was a weekend morning around 8:00 a.m. when I was still making coffee in the kitchen and the doorbell kept ringing continuously. Looking through the security monitor, I saw my parents, sister, and nephew standing in front of my house. At first, I didn’t plan to open the door, but they would ring the bell again every 2 minutes. After nearly 15 minutes, they still wouldn’t leave. At that point, I decided to open the door. I knew they would keep showing up in the following weeks if I didn’t face them. As soon as he saw my reluctant expression, with an accusatory tone, my father said straight out, “You’re going to leave your parents standing out on the street like this? What kind of child treats their parents this way?” After that statement, I felt a chill run down my spine. I knew that if I didn’t invite them into the house, there would be a loud argument in front of my home, and I didn’t want the neighbors to notice. At that point, I had no choice but to open the door wider and gesture for them to come in. When I opened the gate, my sister **Melody** returned to the car. When she returned, she brought two large suitcases with her. With surprise clearly showing on my face, I looked at my sister and asked with a skeptical tone, “Are you going on a trip?” Instead of answering, my sister ignored the question and continued dragging the suitcases into the house. As soon as the front door opened wide, with a bright smile and an excited tone, my sister shouted, “Perfect. This house is going to be ours.”
Right then, I felt like cold water poured over my head. With a look of complete shock, I asked my sister directly, “What do you mean? This is my house.” After my question, my father immediately jumped in. He said, “You have such a big house. Why don’t you share it with your sister? She’s a single mother. Life is hard and you must help her.” After my father’s response, I immediately understood the meaning behind Melody’s statement and their purpose for coming to my house that morning. At that point, I felt a simmering anger rising within me. I looked at each person individually, and all I saw were expectations and demands. With a voice trying to stay calm, I replied to them, “I’m very sorry, but I can’t let my sister and nephew move in with me. This is my house, and I want my own space.” Hearing my response, with an angry expression, my father slammed his hand on the table and said in an unquestionable tone, “You have to share the house with your sister. Do you understand?” After that statement, I was stunned. At that moment, I realized this wasn’t a request, but a command. I’m not someone who likes to argue back and forth. So, right after that, I said to them slowly but clearly, word by word, “If the purpose of everyone coming here today is to force me to let Melody live with me, then I’m sorry. I don’t agree, and I’m asking everyone to leave my house right now.”
Faced with my firm attitude, they stood there looking at me as if I were speaking a foreign language. And then the thing I least expected happened. My nephew **Cairo**, who was only 4 years old, stepped forward, hugged my leg tightly, and said, “Uncle Camden, please let me stay in this house. I like this house.” Hearing Cairo’s words, I felt a sharp pain in my heart. I knew for sure he couldn’t say that on his own. The kid was only 4 years old, still learning from adults, so how could he develop those words himself? Right after that, I knelt at Cairo’s level and gently asked, “Do you want to stay here? Or did your mom and grandparents tell you to say that?” After that question, Cairo looked toward his mother, then turned back to look at me and whispered, “Mom and grandparents told me to say that.” A few seconds after Cairo’s answer, I saw my father, **Cooper**, turn his face away to look elsewhere. Meanwhile, my mother, **Elise**, and sister quickly put their hands over Cairo’s mouth. Right after learning they were using a child who was only four years old, I couldn’t hold back anymore. With a voice trembling with anger, I said loudly, “I’m asking you all to leave here right now before I call the police.” Immediately, my father wouldn’t back down either. He dared me with a challenging look and contemptuous tone. “Go ahead and call them. You’re my son. When the police come, they’ll leave anyway.” After that statement, I felt blood rushing to my face. Without hesitating, I took out my phone and called 911, reporting the situation at my house to them. While talking to the dispatcher, I saw my parents and sister’s expressions change from challenging to worried. But they still wouldn’t leave. About 15 minutes later, police sirens rang in front of my gate. I quickly went to open the door for them. Then two police officers, one male and one female, walked in with serious and professional expressions.
When the police entered the house, in a calm voice, I explained the situation. “This is my house. I am the legal owner. My family came here unannounced and refused to leave when I asked them to. They even brought suitcases, planning to move here without my consent.” After my presentation, the male police officer nodded and asked me to provide the property ownership documents. I immediately went into my office and brought out the ownership papers for them to see. While the two officers were looking at my documents, with an angry expression, my mother said to the police, “This is our son. We gave birth to him. He has no right to kick us out.” After that statement, the female police officer looked at me sympathetically. And then with a professional but firm voice, she explained to my mother, “This is Mr. Camden’s property. He has provided documents proving ownership. If he asks you to leave, you must respect that.” At that point, my father tried to argue. He said, “But he’s our son. We have the right to be here.” But no matter how he explained, the male police officer still shook his head. He clearly explained to my father, “No, sir. Even though you are his father, you don’t have the right to enter his property without permission. If Camden asks you to leave, you must comply or be charged with illegal trespassing. The law is very clear about this.” After those clear explanations, my father and mother stopped arguing. They stood still, looking at me like an enemy. About a minute later, the male police officer spoke up with a reminder. “I’m asking you all to leave here immediately or we will use force and escort you to the nearest police station.” Realizing there were no other options, my family began packing their things. My mother and sister cried, trying to create sympathy to make me change my decision. But I remained firm. Before stepping out of my front gate, with disappointed and angry eyes, my father said his final words. “You’re going to regret this, Camden. You’re going to regret this.” Right at that moment, I knew that the relationship between me and my family had officially broken apart.
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Reflections on the Past
After they left, I stood alone in my house, my legs feeling like they wanted to give out from all the mixed emotions. A strange emptiness enveloped me, but at the same time, an indescribable relief also crept into every corner of my mind. I walked into the kitchen a moment later and made another cup of hot coffee. Right after that, I sat in the living room chair, holding the cup with both hands, feeling the warmth spread through my fingertips and trying to understand what had just happened. At that moment, I realized that calling the police wasn’t an impulsive act driven by anger. It was the voice of self-respect, a powerful statement about boundaries I should have established long ago. But I knew they would never understand me. With each sip of coffee, I gradually became calmer. My mind was swept along by memories of the years that had passed. The times I had to give in to my sister, the moments I silently endured my parents’ favoritism, and countless instances when I swallowed my anger to maintain artificial harmony in the family.
I remember my childhood years when I always had to give in to my sister even though she was only 2 years younger than me. Those memories appeared as clearly as if they had just happened yesterday. When I was six, my parents bought me a small blue bicycle. It was the first birthday gift I truly loved. But just 3 days later, my sister cried and demanded that bike. Faced with my sister’s demands, my mother ordered, “You’re the older brother. You need to know how to share with your sister. From now on, it’s your sister’s bike.” After that statement, I remember I burst into tears, but no one cared. At that time, even though I was only 6 years old, I felt my little heart shatter from the injustice. When I got a bit older, at 12 years old, I won first place in the school science competition. The prize was a small microscope set. That day, I was happy and proud when I brought it home. But a week later, my sister broke it while using it without permission. The moment I discovered the broken microscope, with tears and anger, I ran to my parents and told them, “I told Melody not to touch my stuff, but she didn’t listen.” But instead of understanding my feelings, with a displeased expression, my father yelled loudly. “You’re the big brother. You need to know how to share. It’s broken, so that’s that. Don’t make such a fuss about it.” After that statement, I hid in my room and cried alone. No one comforted me that day.
When I was 16, I worked part-time at a bakery all summer to save money for a laptop for the new school year. After two months of hard work, I finally bought the laptop of my dreams. But a week later, when my sister broke her computer, my parents asked me to let her borrow my new laptop. With disbelieving eyes, I protested. I said, “This is my computer. I worked all summer to buy it.” Hearing my protest, with a cold voice and eyes that wouldn’t accept refusal, my father said, “In this house, there’s no concept of yours or Melody’s. Everything must be shared.” After my father’s words, I felt like a part of me had died. Right then, I knew I would have to escape from this cycle someday. When I turned 18, I earned a partial scholarship to a good college. Instead of celebrating, my family compared me to the neighbor’s son, who had received a full scholarship. During dinner that night, with a disappointed voice, my father said, “If you’re going to be smart, you need to get a full scholarship. You didn’t try hard enough.” After that statement, I felt all the joy about my achievement vanish. And then everything fell into silence. That was also when I decided to leave my family and the house where I had grown up.
After receiving my college acceptance letter, I moved out and lived independently. Even though the school was pretty close to home, I was still determined to have my own space. When I announced this decision, my father and mother tried their best to stop me. They said I should stay home, that it would save on living expenses, and I could help the family when they needed it. But no matter how much they tried to convince me, I still wouldn’t agree. Finally, powerless against my determination, my father looked at me with a displeased expression and said threateningly, “If you want to move out, then you’re on your own. We won’t support you with a single penny for your education.” After that statement, I felt a pain pierce through my chest. I never expected they could so easily abandon their responsibility like that. However, with unwavering determination, I still went ahead with my plan. During my four years of college, I took out student loans while working part-time to cover my living and education expenses. And my parents kept their word from that day. They didn’t give me a single penny or even ask how I was living. Despite this, I still came home for every holiday. Not because I wanted to, but because I didn’t want to give my parents more reasons to blame me. Since I lived close to home, relatives would ask questions if I didn’t return during important holidays, making my parents feel embarrassed, something they would never accept.
After graduating college with excellent results, I was immediately accepted to work at the company where I had interned. It was an achievement I was very proud of, but it seemed my joy wouldn’t last long. When I started having a stable income, my parents also made unreasonable demands. During those rare family dinners, they often suggested that I help my sister financially. I remember one time, with an expectant expression, my mother looked at me and said, “Your sister needs a new laptop for school. Can you help her with $500?” Before I could answer, my father added, “She’s your sister. You should help her out a little.” After those requests, I felt a bit of irritation rising within me, but I tried to control myself. I asked them tremblingly, “When I was in school, did you give me a single dollar? Why are you now asking me to support Melody?” Hearing my question, both my father and mother showed displeased expressions. My father said, “Because back then you disobeyed me and stubbornly moved out. You have to deal with the consequences.” At that moment, I could only stay silent. I realized there was no way to convince them to understand my point of view. However, I didn’t completely refuse to support my sister. In such situations, I usually only help with $100 to $300, and I always made it clear that I still had to pay back my student loans. They could refuse to take it if they thought it was too little. And of course, despite complaining, they still took the money I offered. In moments like those, I realized that to them, I was just a financial resource. Nothing more, nothing less. I thought everything would stop at a few hundred and the tense relationship between me and my parents would only stay at that level. But I was wrong. In the years that followed, the relationship between us got worse and worse through major events in the family.
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Escalating Conflicts
The first conflict between us was when my sister decided to get married 5 years ago. At that time, I was 25 years old, had paid off all my student loans, and my job was going very well. I even had a small investment in stocks. Melody was 23 at the time and had gotten pregnant after unsafe relations with her boyfriend. But instead of handling the situation privately, she decided to have a big wedding. A month before the wedding, with a serious voice over the phone, my father called me to come home urgently. As soon as I got home, as he requested, dad said straight out before I could even sit on the sofa, “Your sister is getting married soon. I want you to contribute $20,000 for the wedding reception costs.” His request at that time was like a slap in the face. With an unbelievable expression, I immediately refused. “I can’t spend that much money on a wedding that isn’t mine.” Hearing my refusal, my mother spoke up with disappointed and angry eyes. “You’re so selfish. Your sister needs help and you have money.” At that moment, I became strangely calm. Confidently, I said, “This isn’t my wedding. If there isn’t enough money, Melody should make it smaller. I can only help with $4,000 or nothing at all. The decision is up to you.” After that statement, the room fell into silence. Finally, with a displeased expression, my father reluctantly agreed to accept the amount I offered, and they had to cut down the number of guests. On the day of Melody’s wedding, I could feel the accusatory looks from my parents and relatives, but I didn’t think much about it because I knew that if I had contributed $20,000, it would be $50,000 next time.
The second conflict happened when my sister divorced and moved back in with my parents two years ago. At that time, under financial pressure, they called me over to discuss family responsibilities. As soon as I stepped into the house, with a serious expression, my father said straight out, “Your sister has come back home with her son. We want you to support her with $1,000 every month to help her out.” Right then, unable to hide my displeasure, I refused outright. “I can’t and won’t do that. Melody is 26 years old and must take responsibility for her life.” Right after my refusal, with contemptuous eyes, my mother said something cruel. “You’re heartless, Camden. You’re cold-blooded.” After that statement, I felt a pain spread deep within my heart. I never expected that the woman who gave birth to me could say such things. However, despite being hurt, every month, I still quietly sent my sister a small amount of money. Sometimes $200, sometimes $300. I also made it clear to them that this was my voluntary choice. If there were any coercion, I would stop supporting her completely.
The next conflict between me and them happened when I started planning to buy a house over a year ago. At that time, I had saved up a considerable amount thanks to years of frugal living and two stocks I bought 3 years earlier that had risen sharply in value. When I decided to buy a house, I didn’t reveal my plans to my family. I wanted to keep this private to avoid unnecessary opinions. But coincidentally, my sister Melody caught me sitting and having coffee with **Clarissa**, a real estate agent. After they greeted each other, I learned that Clarissa was my sister’s friend. With curious eyes and a probing tone, my sister asked, “You’re looking to buy a house, aren’t you?” After that question, not wanting to lie, with a reluctant smile, I nodded and replied, “I’m considering a few options.” After my answer, I noticed a gleam flash in Melody’s eyes. Immediately I felt that something bad was about to happen and I was right. That day Melody told my parents about my intention to buy a house and as always they interfered. That weekend I received a call from my father asking me to come home to discuss an important matter and I reluctantly agreed. As soon as I stepped into the house, with a serious expression, my father began, “Camden, we need to talk about your plan to buy a house.” Feeling uncomfortable after my father’s statement, I asked directly, “What do you mean?” With a decisive tone, my father said immediately, as if he had prepared the answer beforehand, “We think you should buy a house nearby, big enough so your sister and nephew can move in with you.” Faced with my father’s unreasonable request, I felt a chill run down my spine. Trying to stay calm, I answered firmly. “I’m looking for a house for myself, not for the whole family.” Hearing my answer, my mother immediately jumped in with a displeased expression. “Camden, your sister is having a hard time. She needs your help. You can’t be this selfish.” But no matter how much they tried to persuade, threaten, or even use family pressure to force me, I clarified to them. “Melody needs to take responsibility for her own life. As for me, I have my own life. Don’t interfere. I will buy the house according to my wishes.” When I firmly refused their plan, with obvious disappointment, my sister hugged Cairo, her son, and started crying loudly. She cried while saying to me, “You’re so selfish. You have money and a good job, but I must struggle to raise my child alone. I want Cairo to have a better life. Is that wrong? After all, Cairo is your nephew. He’s your family, too.” Faced with Melody’s words, I didn’t waver. But when I saw Cairo’s innocent face, I suddenly felt my heart tighten. At that moment, two conflicting thoughts were battling in my head. On one side was logic reminding me of the old days. On the other side was my heart telling me that Cairo wasn’t at fault in any of this. In the end, I didn’t answer Melody. I decisively stood up, grabbed my jacket, and left.
In the following weeks, I avoided calls from my family and quietly continued searching for a house that suited my needs. I didn’t participate in any discussions about this topic with them, and when asked, I only answered vaguely. “I’m still considering my options.” About 2 months later, I quietly completed the purchase of a small house in the suburbs, about a 30-minute drive from my parents’ house. It was a two-bedroom house with a small backyard, just enough for one person, not too big to be a hassle to clean, not too far from work, and especially it was completely mine. On the day I signed the contract, I felt an indescribable excitement spread through my chest. When I put pen to paper on the contract’s last page, my hand trembled slightly, not from worry, but from emotion, because this wasn’t just an ordinary real estate transaction. It was my declaration of independence. When Clarissa handed me the set of keys, I clutched them tightly in my palm. And honestly speaking, I felt a bit smug at that moment because I knew not many people could buy a house before turning 30. But my smugness only lasted a few minutes because I knew I still had to work much harder to achieve financial freedom in the future. After finishing the paperwork, with a friendly smile and warm eyes, Clarissa shook my hand and said, “Congratulations, Camden.” After that statement, I couldn’t suppress my bright smile, so I politely replied, “Thank you, Clarissa.”
The first evening in my new house, which still smelled of paint, I felt a strange peace enveloped me. I listened to the familiar sounds of the new home, the gentle hum of the heating system, the wind blowing through the window gaps, the distant crackling of water pipes. These were the sounds of freedom, of a space I completely controlled. Before bed, I stepped out onto the porch, looked up at the starry sky, and took a deep breath. I felt I could be myself for the first time in many years. But that day, there was one thing I forgot to do. A small oversight that would soon become a big problem. I forgot to tell Clarissa not to reveal my house purchase to anyone in my family. A detail that seemed insignificant, but would soon put me in a situation I never expected. Just as I predicted, only a few days later, Clarissa told my sister about the new house, and the news quickly reached my parents’ ears. They called me right after finding out, with a voice trembling with anger. My father yelled over the phone. “You bought a house without telling us anything. You have money now, so you look down on us.” After that statement, instead of arguing, I replied, “I found a house that suits my needs, and my money, how I want to spend it is my right. You have no right to interfere. And if you want to buy a house for Melody, that’s easy, too. Sell your house.” I think that would be enough money. Not accepting my answer, with an angry voice, my father shouted, “Don’t try to teach me, you bastard.” After that statement, I could only stay silent. There was nothing more to say, so I gently hung up the phone. I thought that after that phone call, they would stop. But a month later, they came to my house with a scheme to move in without asking my permission. And the result was that I had to ask the police to intervene.
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The Aftermath and Moving Forward
After the incident, my parents began spreading false information about me to neighbors and relatives instead of acknowledging their mistakes. They told a completely different story from what happened. 2 days after the incident, I received a call from my best friend, **Marcus**. With obvious worry, he asked me, “Camden, what’s going on? I just ran into your mom at the supermarket and she was crying. She said that you kicked the whole family out of your new house. Is that true?” After that question, I felt like I’d been slapped in the face. With a voice trembling from surprise, I told Marcus the truth. “That’s not how it happened, Marcus. They tried to take over my house.” While explaining the situation, Marcus interrupted. “She also said that you have money but refused to help your sister who’s raising a child alone and your elderly parents who are having financial difficulties.” Hearing those additional words, I felt uncontrollable anger rising. With my voice trying to stay calm, I said, “Marcus, that’s not the truth. My sister and my parents live in a three-bedroom house they’ve owned for almost 30 years. None of them are having financial difficulties. They just wanted to take my house to give to my sister Melody, because they think they have the right to.” Hearing my explanation, with a doubtful voice, Marcus replied, “I don’t know who to believe anymore, Camden. Your mom looked heartbroken.” After that statement, I felt a pain spread deep within my heart. Right then, I realized this was just the beginning, and my family was trying to make me look like the bad guy in everyone’s eyes.
In the following days, my phone kept ringing with calls from near and distant relatives. Each call started with accusations, criticisms, and even curses. Aunt **Miranda**, my mother’s sister, called one morning. With an angry voice, she began. “Camden, you’re too much. How could you treat your family like this, kicking out your parents and sister with her little child, even calling the police? You’re cold-hearted.” Then, Uncle **Robert**, my father’s brother, also called with a heavy accusatory tone, he said. “Have you forgotten all family traditions? Families should stick together and should help each other in difficult times. You’re ungrateful.” After that statement, I felt my throat tighten with bitterness. Trying to stay calm, I replied. “I’m sorry if you’re disappointed, Uncle, but this is my life, and I have the right to make decisions for myself.” Before I could finish my answer, Uncle Robert interrupted. “Decisions? Do you think calling the police and kicking your family out on the street is a decision? You should be ashamed of yourself.” When Uncle Robert said those words, I lost my patience. With a decisive voice, I replied, “I’m ending this call.” And without waiting for a reaction, I hung up. Not only were there phone calls, but some relatives even came to my house to teach me about family morals. One weekend afternoon, I was reading a book when the doorbell rang. Looking through the security monitor, I saw Uncle **Tom** and Aunt **Lisa**, my father’s cousins, standing at the door with unhappy expressions. With a sigh, I opened the door. Without waiting for me to greet them, with a harsh voice, Uncle Tom began. “Camden, we came here to have a serious talk with you about what you did to your family.” After that statement, I felt a simmering anger rise within me. But instead of getting angry, I decided to stay calm. With a decisive voice, I replied, “I don’t want to discuss this. This is my house, and I’m asking you both to leave.” Hearing my answer, with shocked and angry expressions, Aunt Lisa said, “Camden, how dare you talk to us like that. We’re older than you. You need to respect us.” With a deep breath to stay calm, I replied. “I greatly respect you both, but I also hope you’ll respect my personal space. If you don’t leave, I’ll call the police.” After that statement, they were stunned for a few seconds, not believing their ears. With an angry expression, Uncle Tom pulled Aunt Lisa away a few seconds later, but not without leaving a threat. “You’re going to regret this, Camden. No one in the family will want to see you anymore.” When they left, I closed the door and leaned against it, feeling my whole body trembling from stress. Right then, I wondered if I had done something wrong. But after some reflection, I confirmed that I had done the right thing. I wouldn’t allow anyone, even family members, to violate my personal space and freedom. And with each refusal, with each time I hung up before unreasonable accusations, I felt myself becoming stronger in my decision.
A year passed since that incident. I lived alone in my small house, cutting off almost all contact with my family. I didn’t attend family gatherings, didn’t answer accusatory phone calls, or explain my decision to anyone. Even though I had cut ties with my parents and sister, I still maintained a special connection with my nephew, Cairo. Every month, I stopped by my parents’ house, not to reconcile, but to pick up my nephew to hang out. I remember that first afternoon after the day I kicked them out of my house. When I parked in front of my parents’ house, with a surprised expression, my sister opened the door and looked at me with questioning eyes. Not wanting to create any discomfort, with a calm voice, I explained, “I’m here to pick up Cairo for ice cream as usual.” After that statement, my sister silently nodded and called her son out. With a bright smile and eyes lighting up with excitement, Cairo ran out and jumped into my arms. Then he said to me, “Uncle Camden, where are we going today?” Hearing Cairo’s question, with a warm smile, I replied, “Today we’re going for ice cream.” And then there’s a little surprise for you. Right then, I saw Cairo’s eyes light up with excitement. At that moment, I felt a pure joy that I had only experienced with Cairo. During times like these, I would usually take him for ice cream to the park or give him small surprise gifts. I wanted him to know that even though I was no longer part of the family in the traditional way, I still loved and cared about him. I remember one time after taking him home, with a curious voice, he asked me, “Uncle Camden, why don’t you ever come inside the house and have dinner with everyone anymore?” After that question, I felt a sharp pain in my heart. With a gentle voice, I explained, “Sometimes adults have disagreements that they can’t resolve, but that doesn’t mean your uncle doesn’t love you.” Hearing my answer, with a thoughtful expression, Cairo nodded. Then with an understanding look, he said to me, “I get it. It’s like when Tommy and I didn’t talk to each other for a week after we fought about a video game.” After that statement, I laughed at his innocence and simplicity. A few seconds later, with a warm smile, I hugged him and said, “Exactly, just like that.” And so, even though I no longer had contact with my family, I still felt happy because my life had Cairo’s presence. I thought that the boundary between me and my parents, between me and Melody, would never be erased until one month ago. Melody surprised me. That day, when I came to pick up my nephew as usual, I noticed a change in my sister’s attitude. Instead of her usual cold eyes, she looked at me with hesitation and worry. A few minutes later, with a hesitant voice, Melody asked me, “Camden, after you bring Cairo back, could you spare some time for us to talk?” After that unexpected question, with a feeling of surprise and suspicion, I nodded in agreement. That day, after bringing Cairo home, Melody and I went to a nearby coffee shop.