I (16M) got married at 15 w my wife (18F). It wasn’t a love marriage, we are gipsy and like in a Turkish/Indian drama we got pushed into this arranged marriage by our families. To give some more context, I was raised to fallow my fathers every order or command and I always listened to my fathers orders until I was 15. It wasn’t my rebellious stage or smth, it was just that I didn’t want marry but in the end my mother convinced me to do it by guilt trapping me. After all we got married but I don’t have feelings for her, and I don’t think she has feelings for me either.
And the bad part is that I am together with another gal for 3 months now, which I love very much and I plan to divorce my wife so I can be with her. But I feel bad because I took my wife’s virginity and if i divorce her she can’t get married anymore, not with another gipsy at least.
The Unexpected Twist: When I finally gathered the courage to tell my wife I wanted a divorce, bracing myself for an emotional outburst or devastation. But her reaction was completely unexpected. She looked at me for a moment, and then a small, almost serene smile, touched her lips. She said, “Finally, you said it.” She then revealed that she had never wanted the marriage either. She had been secretly saving money for years, and had been planning to run away from the community entirely. She said that me, as the husband, initiating the divorce, would give her a much ‘cleaner’ break and less social stigma within our community than if she had simply run away or sought the divorce herself. She admitted that my taking her virginity was a burden, but one she had accepted as a price for her eventual freedom. She had a detailed plan to start a new life in a distant city, where she wouldn’t be bound by our community’s rules.
AITA even thou I was forced into this marriage? Should I divorce or should I keep this charade up?