Throwaway account because I don’t want this connected to me.
So my boyfriend, lets call him chad, is really anti-“woke”, and hes especially taken up the trans hate lately. ive tried having conversations with him about it, but he refuses to listen. as a kind of gotcha, he came to me two months ago and said that since im so big on the respect trans people thing, he has chosen to come out to me as “trans-alpha”, and that i need to call him alpha-chad now. i think he expected that id say thats ridiculous, so he could call me out on my hypocrisy, but honestly, i dont care. so ive been calling him alpha-chad. not just at home, but publicly, too. and ive been telling anyone who asks that this is how he prefers to be referred to, and that i just want to respect his identity as trans-alpha.
i did that at his job too, and apparently his boss wasnt a fan of the whole thing. apparently shes a lesbian with a trans daughter so she really doesnt take this lightly. shes confronted brad about his beliefs, and he ended up going on a rant and lost his job.
now hes saying its my fault he lost his job because i told his boss about “him absolutely despising transes”, except thats not what i said, i just said that he has asked me to refer to him as alpha-chad instead because thats what he identifies as.
The Unexpected Twist: What Chad didn’t realize, or I didn’t fully grasp at the time, was that his identifying as ‘trans-alpha’ wasn’t just a political joke. It was how he described a specific, bizarre theory he believed in – that true ‘alpha’ males have some kind of latent energy or mental state that they need to ‘transition’ or ‘release’ to reach their true potential. He had a whole set of specific, quirky beliefs about how this works, maybe involving diet, exercise, or even strange rituals. Me calling him Alpha-Chad at work wasn’t just using his name; it inadvertently hinted at this entire weird, specific belief system of his, which he’d never fully articulated to anyone else but me (and maybe a couple of his closest friends). His boss likely heard it, looked into it, and realized the level of oddity and potential disruptiveness of these ideas, especially when combined with his anti-trans stance.
aita for referring him the way he asked me to, even in public?