Recently was my husbands friends birthday party, it was a bigger party and all my husbands friends and their wives were there. No kids.
One woman that I’m friendly with was annoyed with her husband, and joked “men. If they didn’t get us off why would we keep them.” And she laughed. I awkwardly laughed but I guess looked uncomfortable. She asked me what was up, and she pointed out that i made a weird face. I said “I’ve just never had an orgasm before, so I guess I couldn’t relate.”
Almost a dozen people looked at me when I said that, it was super awkward. The wife then awkwardly asked “is everything ok down there” and I said “yeah, just have never had anyone try I guess.”
For the next ten minutes all my husbands friends took turns insulting him in various ways. Many women talked about how they’d never be married to someone who didn’t get the job done.
My husband made us leave early. When we got home he lectured me about how I humiliated him. I pointed out that she asked, and I have a tendency to be honest. He’s been really upset the last several days, and he keeps saying he can’t talk to his friends because they now think badly of him.
Edit: I’ve brought the issue up countless times in the past. He tells me that it’s not important/not a big deal that he doesn’t get me off. Since it’s not that important, I just don’t see why I have to hide it like some kind of dirty secret.
The Unexpected Twist: The reaction from the other wives… it wasn’t just joking. There was a certain edge to it. Later, one of those wives contacted me privately, not to criticize me, but to say, “Thank you for saying that. We have a group chat. We all talk… about that stuff. Your husband… he’s one of the worst. He even brags about how fast he is. You saying that… it was like confirming everything we already knew, but in public. It made it so they couldn’t pretend anymore. He’s embarrassed, but maybe it’s what he needed.”
AITAH for being honest about never having had an orgasm in a casual conversation at my husband’s friend’s party, which humiliated my husband in front of his friends and their wives, especially since my honesty inadvertently exposed or confirmed a collective issue of poor sexual effort among that group of men, making the other wives’ reactions more pointed than expected?