Thanks to everyone who commented on my original post. I wanted to share an update about where things stand now.
For those asking how I didn’t notice her affair for four years, it’s because Lía was always incredibly private. She was adamant about boundaries and would shut me down if I asked too many questions. She handled the rent, utilities, and her own expenses, while I covered groceries, the kids’ school costs, internet, water, and anything extra. She claimed it was fair since we both worked, and I didn’t push because I trusted her and didn’t want to create unnecessary conflict. Looking back, I can see how I missed the signs, but at the time, I didn’t think questioning her was necessary.
After finding out about her affair, I had DNA tests done for both kids. My son is biologically mine, but my daughter isn’t. That was a tough pill to swallow, but it doesn’t change anything for me. I’ve been her father in every way that matters, and I love her like my own. I believe the person who raises a child is their real parent, and no court is going to convince me otherwise.
Right now, I’m in the middle of the legal process. The divorce itself hasn’t been finalized yet, but I’ve made it clear that I’m fighting for full custody of both kids. I’ve explained to the court why I believe Lía isn’t fit to have primary custody. Her betrayal wasn’t just a personal one—it shows a complete disregard for the stability and wellbeing of our family.
The court process is slow, and so far, we’ve only had preliminary hearings. I’ve provided evidence of her infidelity and the double life she led. Part of that ‘double life’ evidence came out during discovery or one of the hearings. It turns out the biological father of my daughter isn’t just a random guy from a four-year affair. He’s someone she had a complicated, hidden past with, a man with severe, ongoing financial and legal troubles, and a history of instability that I never knew about. Lía’s extreme financial privacy and need for boundaries? My lawyer thinks it was partly to keep her life compartmentalized to manage her entanglement with him, or even to hide assets from him or potential fallout related to him. Her betrayal wasn’t just a personal one; it was getting involved with someone whose life itself creates instability, putting our family and my daughter at risk. And I’ve asked for a full psychological evaluation for both of us to ensure the best decision is made for the kids. I’m also working on showing the court that I’ve been the primary caregiver emotionally and financially. My lawyer has told me it’s a tough battle, especially since courts often lean toward joint custody, but I’m not backing down.
To those who said my story sounded fake, I get it. This is the kind of nightmare you think only happens in movies or to someone else. I wouldn’t believe it either if I wasn’t living it. All I can say is, I hope you never go through something like this. It destroys everything you thought you knew about your life.
For now, I’m staying focused on my kids and doing everything I can to give them a stable and loving home. They’re the only good thing to come out of all this, and I won’t let them down. Thank you for your support. It means more than you know.