I (30F) broke up with my ex, John (32M), after finding out he had a one-night stand with my sister, Lauren (28F). He showed no regret and claimed our relationship was already going downhill and that we had lost the spark. While I agree with that, I think he should have just ended things instead of cheating. But it is what it is; they decided to pursue their relationship.
After we ended things, I found out I was pregnant. I guess the spark loss didn’t stop him from having sex. 😂 I called him to let him know, but he exploded, calling me every name in the book and accusing me of trying to ruin his happiness with Lauren. He hung up and then blocked me.
I tried reaching out a few more times, but he responded with hostility and insults. Eventually, I sent him a long email with a picture of the pregnancy test, telling him he had a month to contact me or I would terminate the pregnancy. I didn’t want to be a single mom when he was right there, and I had just received a job promotion. Having this child would jeopardize everything I had worked for. Call me selfish, but I couldn’t let that slip away.
A month went by, and I heard nothing from him, so I went through with the abortion. Afterward, I felt really empty and sad, so I decided to make a post on social media about it. I guess he saw it, and it finally clicked for him. He ended up calling me, asking if I really went through with it. I told him yes, and before I could say more, he started yelling and broke down crying, asking how I could do this to him. He choked out something about “that month being hell,” and “losing everything,” and how he was just “trying to keep [Lauren’s Name] from falling apart” after she lost her job and their families disowned them when the affair came out.
I got annoyed and reminded him that he had another woman to give him a child (referring to my sister) and told him to leave me alone. I hung up and blocked him.
Now, I’m being harassed by his family and friends, and their reactions have me questioning whether what I did was wrong.
AITA for giving my cheating ex, who is now with my sister, a one-month ultimatum to engage with my unexpected pregnancy before getting an abortion, and reacting coldly when he finally broke down crying after I terminated, especially since his month of silence might have been due to him being consumed by a separate, severe crisis he was facing with my sister?